During these couple of days I finally came to realize that my Father's mental capacity had deteriorated far more than Mom's. He didn't understand what I told him about Mom falling, didn't understand why she was in the hospital and especially didn't understand why she couldn't just come home. When I'd ask him what he was doing, he'd tell me things like he'd been mowing the yard (which he hadn't) or had been out talking to a neighbor (which he hadn't).
What I had been experiencing with him as bouts of annoying repetitiveness was actually full-blown confusion, and no doubt in my mind, dementia.
After some excruciating soul-searching, I decided to pack them up, close up their house and bring us all back to Ohio as soon as physically possible. Although mentally they both are deteriorating, Mom's hip is healing nicely, so the Doctor released her to fly to Ohio at the end of the second week post-surgery. I managed to pack some warm clothes into boxes and have them shipped home, found a carry-on case for the dog, arranged seats at the front of a non-stop flight from Ft. Myers to Akron-Canton and a week later we landed in Ohio dazed, confused, terrified and exhausted. We took Mom directly to a rehab facility here, and Dad and the dog are now residing at my home.
It ain't Florida and it ain't organized, but hey, we're here, we're together (sort of), and we're surviving.
With support from many friends in similar situations, I've learned that it's important to set a daily routine and to stick with it. After two weeks, we have done just that. While it isn't ideal, we're getting through each day. I'm hoping Mom will soon be released to come home from rehab where I have been working to create a "parent's retreat" in my home so that we can all be comfortable without getting on each others nerves. For now, I'm able to get back to my job, Mom has her therapy each morning, Dad goes to visit each afternoon and everyone is fairly safe and are eating regularly.
|Even during the process, we still need to take time to stop and|
see the beauty around us while it's here.